How to tell when it’s time to leave

Greg Roche
2 min readJul 24, 2022
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Everyone has stress.

Not all stress is the same.

It’s New Stress vs. Old Stress.

New Stress happens when you:

  • Start a new job
  • Learn new things
  • Face uncomfortable situations

Old Stress happens when you:

  • Keep fighting the same battles
  • Face the same situations day after day
  • Feel like you’re banging your head against a wall and nothing changes

We stay in the Old Stress situations because we believe New Stress is worse, but…

It isn’t.

New Stress is when you’re growing and creating resilience.

Old Stress is when you’re dying a little every day.

There could be good things going on in the Old Stress situation.

That’s why we stay there.

We’re stressed out, but the other aspects of the situation aren’t bad.

With the Old Stress, we’re in a comfort zone and don’t take action.

We believe New Stress is going to be more uncomfortable.

It will be.

That’s the point.

When you feel like you’re in a place where things look like they’re going well:

  • Great boss
  • High paying job
  • Financial security

But have Old Stress,

You have to find New Stress.

It’s has to replace the Old Stress. You can’t add it to Old Stress.

This means you’ll be uncomfortable. You may give up something that was comfortable.

People will ask. “Why did you do that? It looked like things were going so well.”

They couldn’t see the Old Stress. They couldn’t see the every day situations draining your energy.

They couldn’t see the light going out in your eyes.

But when you get to the place with the New Stress, your energy will come back.

Greg Roche

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